Moving Forward

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It has been a tough winter for me.  As lots of , my mom handed away in early January.  Though we knew this present day was coming, I simply did not anticipate it to be so quickly.  Grieving has been a a lot slower course of than I assumed it might be.  I’ve been busy with all the same old little actions of life along with serving to my Dad be taught to manage on his personal. After which out of the blue, I will consider one thing I need to inform Mother or a query I’ve for her, and it hits me anew that she is not right here to share issues with.

Mother and Dad with seven of the great-grandkids in 2008.
Two extra had been born after this, and Mother made a quilt for each one in every of them.

There have been different moments of unhappiness in January, too.  Shortly after the primary of the yr, we misplaced my backyard buddy Tarzan, who had been affected by diabetes.

On the finish of the month, we additionally misplaced our granddog Bear. A Mastiff, he was a reasonably intimidating sight to strangers on the door, however in actuality he was a mild big.


Youngest grandson liked his huge previous Teddy Bear.

All in all, it was a awful January.

And right here it’s March…

Climate-wise, we’ve not had a nasty winter.  January was one of many warmest Januarys on file, and I do not suppose we have had a day under zero (-18 C) all winter.  We had just one actually unhealthy day when the wind, greater than the few inches of snow, brought on hazardous driving situations and compelled all the faculties to shut.

Snowy days like these are the very best time to hunker down indoors and luxuriate in slightly bird-watching from the consolation of a heat lounge.  The standard feathered buddies appeared on the feeders, like this white-breasted nuthatch.


And the pleasant tufted titmouse.


Even the red-tailed hawk determined to come back in for a more in-depth look, although I do not suppose he was within the feeders.  He caught round for awhile, and I actually hope he did not discover any little birds for his lunch right here.

The male downy-headed woodpecker got here by for his favourite suet deal with, after which the feminine additionally appeared.

They weren’t the one to go to, nonetheless.  On one snowy day, we counted a minimum of 5 pairs of cardinals foraging on the bottom and on the feeders.  Maybe they had been testing the premises for appropriate nesting locations quickly?


The cardinal is our state fowl and my private favourite.
 I really like their vibrant pink coloring, particularly in opposition to a backdrop of snow.

The red-bellied woodpecker, as soon as a uncommon sight right here, has now turn into a everlasting resident, I feel.

There have been many different guests, too, together with the blue jays that I wasn’t fast sufficient to seize in .  However the candy little chickadee is a cooperative picture mannequin.

For the reason that starting of February, the climate has been fluctuating wildly, to say the least.  Someday the temps hit 70 for a brand new file, and daffodils may very well be seen poking up via the soil far and wide.

And just some days later, we had been again in full-blown winter.  And no, I do know this is not a stand of daffodils–it’s sedum–but the daffodils had been nowhere to be discovered on this snowy day.  I feel my poor daffodils are confused, pondering sooner or later that spring is right here, solely to cover away and go into hibernation the subsequent.

The climate consultants are predicting an early spring, and I, for one, can be so comfortable if they’re proper.
Spring is my favourite season, and I all the time discover my spirits lifting this time of yr it doesn’t matter what the winter has been like.

Prior to now week, we’ve got seen indicators of its imminent look, first with my small stand of snowdrops that appeared instantly via all of the leaf particles.

And just some days later, the primary crocuses opened up.  All comfortable indicators of a lot extra to come–I can not wait!

Normally, at the moment of yr I take part with Beth at Plant Postings for her Lessons Learned meme. I have never had a lot time to consider gardening this previous winter, so I can not say I’ve realized a lot about it lately.  However I actually have realized some life classes these previous few months, and there may be one specifically about my mom that I all the time need to keep in mind.  My mom was a typical girl of the 50’s–a housewife who put household first.  She cooked three meals a day from scratch, sewed most of my garments, tended a big backyard and canned sufficient produce for the winter, and drove a tractor when my Dad wanted her assist.  She by no means wrote a ebook, constructed a constructing, or was well-known in any method.  But when buddies and neighbors got here to supply their condolences after she handed, all of them commented how she had helped them at one time or one other, all the time with a smile on her face.  The remark I heard over and over was that that they had by no means heard my mom say an unkind phrase about anybody.  I do know they had been honest, as a result of I actually by no means heard my mom say something detrimental or unkind about anybody both. What a beautiful legacy! I solely hope I can comply with my mom’s instance extra within the coming years. This world may actually use slightly extra kindness.


Keep in mind there is not any such factor as a small act of kindness.
 Each act creates a ripple with no logical finish.
Scott Adams

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